Egocentricity, Pride or Jealousy of Women

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Pride is with men only and with women it is jealousy. Vanity is with men and for this reason Allah has prohibited women except to have one husband and for men He has made up to four (wives) lawful. Allah is most gracious. He does not place vanity and pride in them (women) then make three more with her lawful for him/”

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, has not placed pride in women. Such feeling comes from detested ones among them; however, the believing ones of them are free of pride. Allah has placed pride in men; He has made lawful for men up to four and those whom they own (slaves). For women He has made only their husband so if she wants more besides him she is a fornicator before Allah.’ He (the narrator) has said that al-Qasim ibn Yahya has narrated from his grandfather al-Hassan ibn Rashid from abu Bakr al-Hadramiy from abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), except that he has said, ‘Baghat’ (sought) instead of ‘Aradat’ (wanted).”

“Once the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, was sitting that a nude woman came until she stood right in front of him and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, I have sinned, so cleanse me.’ He (the narrator) has said that after her a man came running and threw a cloth on her. He (the Messenger of Allah) asked about the relation between the two of them.’ He replied, ‘She is my companion (wife), O Messenger of Allah. I went to bed with my slave-girl, and then she did what you have seen.’ He (the Messenger of Allah) then said, ‘The egotistic, or jealous cannot distinguish between the top and the bottom of the valley.’”

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said, ‘Pride of women is jealousy and jealousy is the root of disbelief. When women become jealous they become angry and when they become angry they disbelieve except the Muslim ones among them.’”

“Once a man mentioned his wife before abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), and he praised her quite well. Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), asked, ‘Have you made her jealous?’ He replied, ‘No, I have not done so.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Make her feel jealous.’ He did so and he found the proof; then said to abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), that he has found the proof and she is as he (the Imam) has said.’”

“I once said to abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), ‘When a woman feels jealous against man, she causes disappointment for him.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘It is because of (her) love/”