1. We were told by my father, may Allah grant him mercy, that he said: We were told by Sa’d bin Abdullah, from Ibrahim bin Hashim, from Ali ibn Ma’bad, that he said: I was informed by Ahmad bin Umar, from Yahya bin Imran, from Abu Abdillah, peace be upon him, that he said: The Commander of the Believers, peace be upon him, used to say
For there to be joined in your heart between the need for people and suffiency from them, is that your need of them is with regards to the softness of your speech and good giving of glad tidings, and that your suffiency from them is with regards to decency of your honor (relating to female relatives) and the maintenance of your dignity.