Hadith 1870
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1. A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from ibn Mahbub from Jamil ibn Salih from abu Basir who has said the following
“I heard a man saying to abu Ja‘far (a.s.), ‘I pray to Allah to keep my soul in service for your cause, I am an aged man. I have married a virgin young woman. I have not gone to bed with her yet. I am afraid in bed that on finding me of such age and the dye on my beard she may dislike me.’ Abu Ja’far (a.s.), said, ‘When you are there, ask her before approaching you to take Wudu’. You also, should not approach her before taking Wudu’ and performing two Rak‘at Salah (prayer). Thereafter, speak of glory of Allah and say, “Allahumma Salli ‘Ala Muhammad wa ‘Ali Muhammad (O Allah grant Muhammad and his family a compensation worthy of their serving Your cause).” Thereafter ask her and others present with her to say A’ min (O Allah grant his wishes). Thereafter say, “O Lord, provide her enough reasons to be kind to me, love me and be happy with me and grant me enough reason to be happy with her, bring us together in the best form of gathering, and the happiest kindness; You love lawfulness and dislike unlawfulness.’” The Imam then said, ‘You must bear in mind that kindness comes from Allah and hate comes from Satan so that people dislike what Allah has made lawful.’”
1ـ عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنِ ابْنِ مَحْبُوبٍ عَنْ جَمِيلِ بْنِ صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِي بَصِيرٍ قَالَ
سَمِعْتُ رَجُلاً وَهُوَ يَقُولُ لأَبِي جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ الْسَّلام) جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ إِنِّي رَجُلٌ قَدْ أَسْنَنْتُ وَقَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً بِكْراً صَغِيرَةً وَلَمْ أَدْخُلْ بِهَا وَأَنَا أَخَافُ إِذَا أَدْخُلُ بِهَا عَلَى فِرَاشِي أَنْ تَكْرَهَنِي لِخِضَابِي وَكِبَرِي فَقَالَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ الْسَّلام) إِذَا دَخَلْتَ فَمُرْهُمْ قَبْلَ أَنْ تَصِلَ إِلَيْكَ أَنْ تَكُونَ مُتَوَضِّئَةً ثُمَّ أَنْتَ لاَ تَصِلُ إِلَيْهَا حَتَّى تَتَوَضَّأَ وَتُصَلِّيَ رَكْعَتَيْنِ ثُمَّ مَجِّدِ الله وَصَلِّ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ وَآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ ثُمَّ ادْعُ الله وَمُرْ مَنْ مَعَهَا أَنْ يُؤَمِّنُوا عَلَى دُعَائِكَ وَقُلِ اللهمَّ ارْزُقْنِي إِلْفَهَا وَوُدَّهَا وَرِضَاهَا وَرَضِّنِي بِهَا ثُمَّ اجْمَعْ بَيْنَنَا بِأَحْسَنِ اجْتِمَاعٍ وَأَسَرِّ ائْتِلاَفٍ فَإِنَّكَ تُحِبُّ الْحَلاَلَ وَتَكْرَهُ الْحَرَامَ ثُمَّ قَالَ وَاعْلَمْ أَنَّ الإِلْفَ مِنَ الله وَالْفِرْكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ لِيُكَرِّهَ مَا أَحَلَّ الله.